Author: Caron Carter

Froebelian Principles and Children’s Friendships (1 of 2)

About this episode

In this fifth episode (part 1 of 2) Dr Caron Carter talks to Dr Sacha Powell, Professor Tina Bruce and Dr Stella Louis, exploring Froebelian principles and their links to children’s friendships, considering how a Froebelian ethos can support children’s friendships.

Guest speakers

Sacha Powell is the Chief Executive Officer of the Froebel Trust – a charity that works across the UK and internationally to promote and advance Froebelian principles in education and learning. The Froebel Trust does this by awarding grants for research and practice development projects and bursaries for professional education; providing free events and resources such as research summaries, practice guides, pamphlets, podcasts and films; supporting professional networks and offering online and in-person training in Froebelian approaches to early childhood education and care. Previously, Sacha was Professor of Early Childhood Care and Care and Director of the multi-disciplinary Research Centre for Children, Families and Communities at Canterbury Christ Church University.

Professor Tina Bruce CBE is an Honorary Visiting Professor at the University of Roehampton where she was Head of the Froebel Nursery Research School and then Director of the Centre for Early Childhood Studies. She studied at the Froebel Educational Institute (which has since become part of the University of Roehampton) at London University and at Manchester University where she trained to work with children with hearing impairments.

She was Coordinator of the Ministerial Early Years Advisory Group (EEAG) for ten years. Her international work includes the USA, (University of Virginia Commonwealth where she was awarded  international woman scholar for early childhood education) and Germany, Portugal, Lithuania and New Zealand and Egypt (with British Council) and South Africa. 

She has written many books across the years and  co-presented the BBC Radio 4 series “Tuning into Children” with Kirsty Wark

Her first book (1987) Early Childhood Education (Hodder & Stoughton) is now in its 5th edition, her latest book 2021 being Friedrich Froebel: A Critical Introduction to Key Themes and Debates (Bloomsbury Academic).

She has edited books, two being award winning with Nursery World, Early Childhood Practice: Froebel Today (2012, Sage) and with co-editors Lynn McNair and Jane Whinnett (2020), Putting Storytelling at the Heart of Early Childhood Practice: A Reflective Guide for Early Years Practitioners. (Routledge).   

She is a Vice President of the British Association for Early Childhood Education, Associate Member of the Froebel Trust, and patron of the Centre for Literacy in Primary Education. She was awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award by Nursery World.

Dr Stella Louis is an internationally renowned freelance Early Years consultant, trainer, and author, who has worked with individual nursery settings, parents, nursery schools, local authorities, governments, and charities all over the world.

Originally from South London, Stella began her career as a Nursery Nurse. She is the author of several books including: Understanding Schemas in Young Children; How to Use Work Group Supervision to Improve Early Years Practice and Observing Learning in Early Childhood.

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Publications and resources

T. Bruce, Y. Nishida, S. Powell, H. Wasmuth and J. Whinnett [Eds.] (2023) Bloomsbury Handbook to Froebel. London: Bloomsbury

M. Cooper, C.T-S. Siu, M. Benson McMullen, J. Rockel and S. Powell (2022) A Multi-Layered Dialogue. Exploring Froebel’s Influence on Pedagogies of Care with 1-year-olds across Four Cultures. Global Education Review, 9(1). 

V. Young, K. Goouch and S. Powell (2022) Babysong revisited: communication with babies through song. British Journal of Music Education, 38(3), 273-285.  

L.J. McNair and S. Powell (2022) Friedrich Froebel: a path least trodden. Early Child Development and Care, 191(7-8): 1175-1185. 

S. Powell (2020) Pedagogical anchors for turbulent times: Montessori, Froebel, Steiner and Pikler. Early Education Journal, 91 (summer 2020), p.3.

S. Powell and K. Goouch (2019) Mother Songs in Daycare for Babies, pp.154-165 in T. Bruce, P. Elfer, S. Powell and L. Werth [Eds.] The Routledge International Handbook of Froebel and Early Childhood Practice.

Gura, P. (ed) (1992) Exploring Learning: Young Children and Blockplay, London: Paul Chapman Publishing.

Bruce, T. (ed) (2012) Early Childhood Practice: Froebel Today. London: Sage.

Bruce, T. (2015) Early Childhood Education. (5^th edn) London: Hodder Education.

Bruce,T. (2020) Putting Storytelling at the Heart of Early Childhood Practice. London: Routledge.

Bruce, R. (2021) Friedrich Froebel; a Critical Introduction to Key Themes and Debates.

Louis, S (2012) It’s as easy as ABC (and D) South African Kindergartens have been trying out Froebel’s principles, with interesting results? Journal No 66. London. Early Education. Pp. 14-15.

Louis, S (2018) The Far-Reaching Value Of The Short Froebel Courses. Early Years Educator. January.

Louis, S. (2019) – ‘The Froebel Trust work in South Africa 2010-2017’ South Africa Reflections in Bruce, T., Elfer, P., Powell, S., Werth, L., (2019) Routledge International Handbook of Froebel and Early Childhood Practice, London; Routledge.

Louis, S., Bruce, T., and Bruce, I, (2021) Teacher progression in a South African community school in an informal settlement. Impact Journal of the Chartered College of Teaching. P25-28. 

Louis , S. (2023).Observing Learning in Early Childhood, London Sage.

Children’s Imaginary Friends

[00:00:00] [music playing] Hello, and welcome to Children’s Friendships Matter.  A podcast about children’s friendships post-COVID 19.    In this episode Dr Caron Carter talks to Professor Kate Adams, Professor of Education at Leeds Trinity University, Leeds, UK. Kate has published widely for over two decades, through research papers, articles, and books.  Including Unseen Worlds – Looking Through the Lens of Childhood, and The Spiritual Dimension of Childhood.  In this episode they explore the concept of imaginary friends.  Asking are there different types of imaginary friends, how should we react to the presence of an imaginary friend, and how can we support children with their imaginary friends.

[00:01:01] Welcome Kate to this podcast.

Kate Adams: [00:01:07] Thanks Caron, it’s lovely to be here.

[00:01:08] I suppose we’re going to talk a little bit today, mainly around friendship but particularly imaginary friends.  I’m particularly interested in imaginary friends, and I know it’s something that you’re particularly interested in.  The reason why I wanted to talk about that was because of the presence of imaginary friends, and we will talk a little bit about that as time goes on.

[00:01:29] So before we do, could we just start with you introducing yourself, Kate, and telling us a little bit about your background and role as an academic?

Kate Adams: [00:01:40] Yes, absolutely.  So, I’m Kate Adams. I’m currently a professor of education at Leeds Trinity University, and I started my professional career as a primary school teacher where I taught the whole curriculum across primary, but I specialised in religious education.   While I was working as a teacher, I was very privileged to earn a Farmington Fellowship from Oxford University which was an opportunity for teachers to have a term out of school to do a piece of research that was based around religious education.  And the study I did there was a very small-scale study around children’s dreams in sleep that they felt had a spiritual connection.

[00:02:28] So this is something that we find in many world religions and ancient religions, a concept that the divine can communicate with people through their dreams in sleep.  And it was quite an original study. Work had been done by psychologists and other researchers with regard to adults, but nothing really that we were aware of around children.   And to cut a long story short that really whetted my appetite for research into children’s spirituality and that led to earning a PhD scholarship from Glasgow University where I turned that study on spiritual dreams in to a PhD and never looked back!

[00:03:19] So after studying for a PhD, having given up my teaching career to do that, to be a full-time student in my 30s I have then embarked on an academic career and here I am.

[00:03:36] That’s great.  So interesting.  What an interesting journey.  So, could you tell us a little bit about your research?  I know that we’ve said about friendships and imaginary friends, but could you just tell us about-   You’ve told us a little bit about your research but what about your current research today?

Kate Adams: [00:03:52] Yes, so following the PhD I did some wider research in to children’s spirituality more widely and that’s linked with an agenda in education where schools have to promote the spiritual, moral, social and cultural development of children and so I’ve applied my work to education.  And it was actually like many academics.  We have a nugget of an idea, and it can kind of be there for years and years, can’t it, before we actually really kind of get stuck into it.  So many years ago, in 2010, I wrote a book called Unseen Worlds, Looking Through the Lens of Childhood, which was about children’s spiritual and unseen worlds that they inhabit.  And in that book, I wrote a short section on imaginary friends, but I said in there that there were these overlaps with other kind of concepts, like ghosts perhaps, and that the line might be a little bit blurred.

[00:05:01] So it was way back in 2010 that I had that idea about friendship, but it’s only kind of recently now that I’ve really come back to that and really started to unpack that notion of friendship, but this concept of what are often called imaginary friends, and in my work I’m referring to them more as invisible friends.

[00:05:25] It’s interesting isn’t it because sometimes you hear imaginary companions, or imaginary friends, so I suppose there are different terms that are sometimes used.  Yes, that importance of imaginary friends, and I was thinking I did some research and it started with my PhD, similar to you Kate, I was looking generally at friendships, and I was working with 5–7-year-olds and I actually felt-   I had made an assumption that the imaginary friends wouldn’t be there with that age group.  I thought it would come before that, like kind of pre-school age.  So, I started doing this research and then the children started, as part of it, they started talking about imaginary friends.  Some as invisible companions, but also others sometimes as objects.  Object friends. 

[00:06:18] So they were talking about that, and then when I went back and did a little bit more sort of looking at the literature around friendships it did say that children between 5-12, you know, there is a kind of reporting that they have imaginary friends, and actually some children even into adolescence have still got imaginary friends.  Which I was quite surprised about really. So, it’s really quite important that we do think about this really and look at this and research this area.

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[00:06:52] So I just wanted to ask you next, could you tell us something about something that you’ve written recently that you could tell the listeners about that related to imaginary friends?

Kate Adams: [00:06:58] With a couple of my former undergraduate students we wrote a paper on reconceptualising imaginary friends and, as you say, they are often called invisible or imaginary companions in the academic literature.  Those terms are often used interchangeably, and the field is dominated by development psychology.  My argument really is that whilst we’ve learnt some really amazing and important things from development psychologists, we also need to bring other disciplines much more into the conversation to have an interdisciplinary conversation, particularly around the invisible friends, and those which take a human form.   And those are the majority of invisible/imaginary companions that children report.

[00:07:58] So I have always been worried about academic silos, which have been embedded for decades and despite moves internationally to try and get people to talk to each other and so on, but what we did in our paper was we looked at the concept, the actual phenomenon of what happens when a child has an invisible companion that takes a human form, and we looked at that experience, which when you strip it back, it’s about they may talk to them, they may see them, they may hear them, they might potentially feel the presence of this invisible companion.

[00:08:51] And then we looked at different disciplines that don’t talk about imaginary friends or invisible companions, but we argue are actually still looking at the same phenomenon.    So for example we might look at bereavement counselling, where someone has died and the living person still sees, interacts, potentially smells and hears that invisible person that is invisible to everyone else.  There are overlaps there then with parapsychologists who will be using different language again.  They will be talking about after-death communications.  They might be talking about ghosts.

[00:09:38] We have psychiatry which of course is fairly pertinent to these discussions, and we can come back to that, but we also need to move outside of those psychology and related disciplines because those are Western constructs.  And what Western constructs do is they wipe out and ignore, for example, indigenous voices.   So, if we look at what indigenous communities may say, they will be using different language again.  They will be talking about their children who are interacting with spirits, or their ancestors. And religion and spiritual more widely, a similar context.  

[00:10:29] So while those other disciplines are not using the language of imaginary friends, or imaginary invisible companions, they are actually in some cases talking about exactly the same phenomenon, but the disciplines largely are not in dialogue with each other.

[00:10:48] Yes, so when you’re talking about silos you’re talking about perhaps, just to break that down for the listeners as well, is thinking about how we can work together with these other disciplines to see how those things might work together or how they might be different and to have more of that communication together?

Kate Adams: [00:11:08] Yes, very much so.   Because the dominant discourse around imaginary friends is literally, as in the title, they are imaginary, the literature really is explicitly and implicitly talks about them being deliberate creations by children, usually as part of their play.

[00:11:39] Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not for a moment saying that most of them are not imaginary.  Children will tell you themselves, ‘Yes, I made up my invisible friend because I was bored’ for example.  But equally there are many children, and I have even spoken to adults who remember back to their childhood imaginary invisible friends, and they will to this day say they are not imagination.  They are real.   And that is where that will be understood in different disciplines like anthropology, religion, spirituality, but will be disregarded by the more Western constructs of psychology and psychiatry, for example.  So I’m encouraging people really just to be open-minded to different explanations.

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[00:12:45] Just before we go on to the next question Kate, I’ve just been thinking to myself – we’ve been talking about imaginary friends, we’re talking about invisible friends, we’re talking about object friends.  I just wonder if we kind of ought to give some sort of definition or a distinction between those for people who are listening.  So, when we talk about invisible friends and then we talk about object friends or imaginary friends in the form of an object, do you think you could just kind of define those for people?

Kate Adams: [00:13:19] Yes, of course.  So, object friends, sometimes called personified objects are inanimate objects; teddy bears are very common.  I know you found in your research that there was a Lego-

[00:13:36] Lego figures, yeah.

Kate Adams: [00:13:36] Lego figures as well. So it can be anything that is an inanimate object that a child ascribes a personality to and interacts with, talks to, plays with and so on.  So that is something that we can see.  Physically. 

[00:13:57] The imaginary friends, psychologists have found that they, although the majority take the form of a human, they are often a child.  Often similar gender and physical characteristics to the child that has them, but not always.   But they can also be superheroes, they can be animals.  Some people have talked about gods and angels, which I think is a separate discussion really.  But essentially, it’s someone that is visible only to the child who has them, not visible to anyone else.  But importantly it is someone that they interact with regularly and for a period of time, usually months, and can go into years, absolutely.  So, it’s not a one-off like someone might see what they think is a ghost but only see it once.

[00:15:03] That is really interesting.  I’ve kind of spoken a couple of times about, well imaginary friends have come up a couple of times and I mentioned how I had an imaginary friend that I used in the form to kind of get me off of things.  So, if there was anything I had done that was a little bit naughty or a little bit cheeky, I would blame it on the imaginary friend and say it was nothing to do with me.  So, it would be interesting.  I know that we haven’t got time for it now but to explore the affordances and the benefits of the friendships, and that links in with this next question.

[00:15:34] A bit like you Kate, when you’ve been looking at the literature in different fields, when you look at the literature on imaginary friends, perhaps around the 1990s and before then, the literature from that time gives a sort of impression that imaginary friends, the presence of imaginary friends is quite negative and it’s something that we should be concerned about and perhaps it’s children who might be an only one, or somehow lacking in social skills, and parent, if you’ve got a child who has got an imaginary friend you might be thinking should I be concerned about this, is this okay?  So, I just wanted to unpack that, seeing as the literature since the 1990s says different things.  So, I just wondered whether you could talk about should we be concerned or is this something that we should encourage and do we pretend it’s not happening?

Kate Adams: [00:16:32] Yes, as you say, research previously used to associate it with mental ill-health.  The good body of research from psychologists has shown that we don’t need to worry about that at all and psychologists who use the language of children who have typical development, it is actually quite normal.  Estimates vary depending on definitions but we’re looking at up to 65% of children in Western cultures reporting at some point having an imaginary friend.  And psychologists have found quite a lot of benefits.  Gleeson’s work in the US has found that if a child has an imaginary invisible friend, then that is a great rehearsal of social skills.  They can practice friendships and falling outs and all those things that go on in a safe way before it happens in real life.

[00:17:39] There is work that suggests that children who have them have better kind of emotional literacy and there is the concept of theory of mind, which is where children start to learn that other people have a mind of their own that’s different to theirs.  And again there is work by Taylor and Carlson that has shown that children with imaginary friends have better developed theory of mind.

[00:18:05] Other research by Trionfi and Reese showed that language acquisition can be better and that children who have them are better able to narrate both real and imagined experiences.  So, we have a lot of evidence.   

[00:18:24] Now that doesn’t necessarily stop obviously parents, as you say, worrying.  If my child is seeing and hearing and interacting with something that they can’t see then might that child have a mental disorder, something like on the schizophrenic spectrum.  But there is increasing research around auditory and visual hallucinations which we can describe these as, to show that actually hallucinations are very common in the non-pathological populations of children, adolescents and adults, and so I think the changes in understanding around psychiatry and so on are changing and so unless there is real kind of evidence that really, really worries a parent I think that it will be quite rare.

[00:19:25] Okay, so in fact we are kind of saying that the presence of imaginary friends could suggest that children are very imaginative, creative – and I think that I read somewhere something some while ago that you always imagine that the imaginary friend is going to be very cooperative, but actually is there some evidence to suggest that some children have conflicts of fallouts with their imaginary friends?  Yeah?

Kate Adams: [00:19:53] Absolutely, and that is the route of some psychologists not using the word friends and calling them companions.  That is how that came into literature, because they are not all as nice as we would like them to be.   And I think that one of the interesting findings from studies is that these imaginary invisible friends have their own personality, and they have their own will and their own sense of agency.  Lots of them will argue with the child and they will go off and do their own thing and, as you suggested, sometimes cause trouble.  So, a child will often say to their parents ‘my imaginary invisible friend has just messed the bedroom up.  It wasn’t me.  it was them’.  And yes, you’re absolutely right, they will argue back.  I read one account where the imaginary invisible friend actually threw things at the child.   So yeah, there is lots of really interesting stories out there but they definitely mostly, yes, they have their own mind.  And are not always nice.

[00:21:15] That’s fascinating, isn’t it.  Again, it links in with what you were saying about that kind of rehearsal, so maybe it’s children thinking if this happens to me in the real world, so to speak, how do I manage that if a friend does this to me or that.  I suppose it’s a bit like when we’re adults and we’re kind of – you know, often you don’t like the idea of confrontation or something happening and how are you going to manage that or what are you going to do, and it could potentially be children kind of rehearsing that confrontation or that conflict when it comes and how are they going to manage it and what are they going to do.

Kate Adams: Yeah, that is certainly one explanation.  And then of course a completely different explanation might come from anthropological study, for example, or parapsychology where they’re saying this is an entity, it’s a spirit being that is doing the things that they’ve been accused of, like throwing things.   So there are so many different explanations and I think that is one of the really fascinating aspects of imaginary/invisible friends.

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[00:22:28] I have been really interested to think about different aspects of friendships and the impact of COVID 19 and I was just thinking there may not be any research yet on this but did you or do you get a sense of if COVID 19 has impacted on children’s imaginary friends.

Kate Adams: [00:22:47] Yes, it’s a really interesting question and I think something that would be really useful to explore.  There was a study undertaken in Japan by Moriguchi and Todo and they talked to five hundred and sixty caregivers of children aged 2-9 who had imaginary friends and they wanted to see whether during lockdown in Japan whether there was an increase and they predicted that there would have been because children cut off from their normal communications with other friends, but they didn’t really find that.

[00:23:31] What they did find that you’ll be interested in, is that it was with the personified objects, as they called them, that children played with them more during the pandemic.  But there wasn’t an increase as such in new ones or new invisible friends.   So, it’s definitely I think an area for more research, yeah.

[00:23:58] Yes, that is really interesting, isn’t it.  And I found in research that I did that when children were connecting more with nature they were going on walks or they were playing more in their own gardens, they were referring to – there was one child who referred to friends in their garden and when I kind of explored it a bit more with them they talked about they’d had a hedgehog in the garden, they’d had a badger, they’d had a fox and they were almost saying that they came each night and we left some food out for it and that kind of thing.  So, there was kind of like friends in nature and then as you were saying, those personified objects, perhaps some of those things came to the fore for these children perhaps when they weren’t able to be with their peers face-to-face.

[00:24:50] I would be really interested to find out if there was an increase in children’s imaginary friends during those lockdown periods and would that just be that they would have appeared anyway, whether it was lockdown or not lockdown or, you know, I was thinking oh gosh, people might think that again that sort of negative side of are the imaginary friends there because there’s a deficit and they haven’t got their face-to-face friends. 

[00:25:16] Yeah, like you say, it’s probably an area for a little bit more further research.

Kate Adams: [00:25:14] Absolutely, because it could be that it’s a positive sign that children potentially became more creative and more imaginative and so on, so yeah, yeah, lots of opportunities, I think.

Rather than that deficits kind of model.

Kate Adams: [00:25:37] Yes.

[00:25:35] Yes, okay.

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[00:25:43] So this sort of brings me to our final question, and I just wondered, you know, we’ve talked quite a bit about imaginary friends and what sort of take-home messages, reflections, questions – is there anything you would like the listener to take away from this podcast in relation to imaginary friends?

Kate Adams: [00:26:07] Yes, and it’s quite interesting.  There is a survey running at the moment for adults who have strong recollection of their childhood imaginary friends, and in that I’ve asked them if they wished to give any advice to parents, teachers, or children who have them.  It’s the early days of the survey but we’ve got some very wise words coming in from people who did have their own invisible friend when they were children.  The overarching message for parents and teachers is definitely listen, but don’t judge.  We all know how easy it is to put our own spin on things.  And one participant gave a particular piece of advice for parents which said ‘As long as your child is happy, run with it.  And whatever you do, don’t tell your child they are imaginary’.   And it’s great, because I think that we often say to children about lots of things ‘Oh, it’s just your imagination’, and we say it with all the best intentions.

[00:27:26] For example, if a child is scared because they think that there’s a monster under the bed, of course it’s done with the best intentions.  But these messages can tell children the implicit message is ‘I don’t believe you; you’re making it up’.   And children have reported in wider studies on children’s spirituality that that makes them feel dismissed.  Which is sad.

[00:27:57] In my survey there was a lovely piece of advice for teachers which was ‘Become curious about them’.  And I love that, rather than that shutting it down because a teacher is busy and they’ve got to move on to the next thing in the curriculum, you know, if a child does talk about them, be curious.  Ask the child about them.  So, I thought that was fabulous advice.

[00:28:24] And finally from children themselves.  Again, from my survey, a participant said they would say to children ‘Enjoy having a friend who is always with you’, and I thought that was lovely because, as we all know, friends come and go don’t they and that instability when friendships fall apart.  As you know Caron, you’ve done a lot of research on friendship.  That can be very distressing for children.  More so than sometimes adults realise.  But that idea that you’ve got an invisible or imaginary friend, or a personified object friend – they are always with you, and I thought that was a lovely phrase.

[00:29:10] Yes, that’s lovely actually Kate, because I was thinking about a few things when you were talking there but I think that they are, like you say, really wise words.  I was thinking about a scenario when I was in the park, when my son was small, and there was a child in the park who had got an imaginary friend and there were three swings and my son went to sit on one of them and the child said ‘No, no, my-‘  I can’t even remember the name, ‘My Joe is sitting there’, you know, the imaginary companion is sitting in the swing, and the parent was quite mortified really because she felt like-   I suppose it’s a bit like we sometimes have this obsession with like sharing and turn taking and what have you.  I think that she felt that was a really awful thing to say to my child, and I was like no, it’s fine, we will be in this one.   And I think sometimes, like you say, just kind of saying ‘That’s okay’ and then being curious and asking about the companion, I think that is really nice.  Rather than- I think that we feel we might feel embarrassed, or we might feel like ‘this is not a normal thing’, so to actually not to judge and kind of be accepting of that, and then also be quite curious about ‘Oh, who is your friend’, kind of thing, is really, really great.

[00:30:36] And then that thing you were saying there about enjoy having that companion there, and definitely I think the research that I’ve done with children around the everyday friendships – they did talk about losing friends.   Even sometimes friends can be transient through your school life can’t they and things swap and change.   Sometimes they can be quite enduring, and you can have friends from pre-school to adulthood, which is fantastic.  But children also talked about losing a friend when they might move a school, or if they’d come from another country and they spoke really fondly about friends back in their home country that they’d had several years with and then they’d come to England.  And when they were talking about it, it was so profound, it was almost like a bereavement that they couldn’t be with those friends from before, and I think Judy Dunn, she talks about how it’s not a trivial thing, you know, a friend leaving a school or being in another country.   Just a fallout with a friend.  It can be really felt deeply by children and again we shouldn’t underestimate that, so I think that those are really wise things to say really and for us to have that time to tune in to children and listen to those things that affect them on a daily basis.

Kate Adams: [00:32:06] Yes, absolutely, because at the heart of it, isn’t it, it’s for us to understand these things from children’s perspectives rather than putting our own thoughts and impressions and views on to it.  Which links back to what you said about children finding that some animals in wildlife and so on being their friends and there’s literature on children’s relationships with pets where children describe them as friends.  So, it’s not so much what we as adults define as children’s friendship, is it, it’s very much about listening to children’s definitions as well.

[00:32:48] That’s great, thank you very much.  It’s been fascinating talking to you Kate.

Kate Adams: [00:32:54] Likewise and thank you very much for inviting me.

[00:32:56] [music playing] Thank you for listening to this podcast.  For more information on Caron’s research and other related podcasts, please visit https://research.shu.ac.uk/friends   This podcast was made possible by a fellowship opportunity funded by Sheffield Hallam University.  [music playing]

The Role of Adults in Children’s Friendships

[00:00:00] [music playing]  Hello, and welcome to Children’s Friendships Matter.  A podcast about children’s friendships post-COVID 19.  In this, the second of two episodes, Caron talks to Professor Chris Pascal, OBE, and Professor Tony Bertram, Directors of the Centre for Research in Early Childhood, or ‘CREC’; based at the St Thomas Children’s Centre in Birmingham. 

In this episode Caron talks to Tony and Chris about the role of adults in children’s friendships, time and friendship, hope, and optimism.

[00:00:52] What opportunities and challenges are there in these new times for children’s friendships and wellbeing?  And I wondered, Tony, if you might be able to start here?

Tony Bertram:           [00:01:00] I really wanted to say something about the adults, because I think, you know, that’s part of the context in which children are growing up, and the wellbeing of the adults obviously influences the wellbeing of the children and particularly I’m worried about practitioners, Early Years practitioners.  I’m worried about their professionalism, which I think at some level is being undermined because now they’re becoming more like technicians, that are required to deliver packages of knowledge, which is then tested, as I say, under this metrics system.  And we are losing the professionalism and that ability for teachers and other Early Years practitioners to individualise their response to children.  That is one of the things.

[00:01:55] There’s also something to do with what Jack Whitehead calls ‘Living Contradictions’; that they have certain personal principles, and they will have professional principles, and then they will have the things that they’re required to do.  And sometimes those are all in conflict and that is quite difficult to live with.  ‘I’m being asked to do this when I actually don’t believe in what it is that I’m being asked to do’.   Because of some of those things that Chris was saying, you know, ‘Yeah, but I’m in a hurry and I know I’m being tested, so I’ve got to do it like this’.

[00:02:31] And I think that issue of us continuing to pressurise both the children and the practitioners, and including parents in that, you know, yeah sure the home learning environment.   The home learning is an important issue in children’s development, you know, there’s the research evidence on that.  But it’s not just about sticking magnets on the fridge.  It’s not just about all of those things that nice middle-class mums do.  It is actually just about engaging and talking with your children and having the space to do that.

[00:03:04] And another study that we did in austerity showed the impact.  You know, we talk about the trickle-down economy.  Actually, what trickled down was the poverty.  So when we talked to parents in a setting in an area where many of them were on contractual work, where they had to be on the end of a phone.  I can’t go out to the park like I used to, because I’ve got to be here or else, I lost my benefits.  I can’t go to the park because the park keeper isn’t there, and I used to be able to go there and watch the kids play and talk to other mums about the child-rearing practices, you know, about bedwetting or whatever it was, but I can’t go there now because the park keeper is peripatetic, he has to go up to three parks, and the big kids are let out of the secondary school too early and they run up the slide the wrong way.   And all of that kind of stuff. But what you saw is that the impacts of those cuts and austerity was impacting on the very people who most needed it.  

[00:04:04] So I think that those issues for both parents and for practitioners, you know, it’s being supported.  Parent friendships are quite important and giving them the opportunity-   I would recommend that people have a parent’s morning once a week or something.  Create a forum for them where they can talk to each other, and you can get to know them too. I think that is hugely important.

[00:04:31] This business of having forums for discussion, for practitioners, for parents, for them to come together and have that space individually.  The whole issue of professionalism.  And most of all this Jack Whitehead about Living Contradictions.  I think that is quite tough to live with.

[00:04:47] And when you say professionalism, I kind of get that sense of often practitioners really know what children need and they are really good at tuning in to what children need, but yet they’ve got these other agendas, and sometimes that kind of, you know, it’s like we’ve only got so much time, but we need to do this.  Yeah, I can see what you’re saying there.

Tony Bertram:           [00:05:10] And I’m talking particularly also about policy.  Because clearly there is an issue with childcare costs, and I want to trouble the notion of childcare, or can we talk about early years development in care.  It’s not just about the workforce agendas and getting more women in to work and so on, but childcare costs is an issue because the budgets have been cut over the last 21 years, you know, enormously.  And the result of that is if you talk about professionalism, it’s going to cost you more.   If you’re talking about CPD, that’s going to cost us more.  So now people have to go and learn about things from, forgive me, not podcasts, but there are all kinds of things out there on the web.  Some of which actually I would seriously disagree with, but they’re there and available and they’re free.

[00:06:04] But I do think that there is the whole issue around professionalism.  There’s a danger, and again I’m talking about Early Years practice, there is a danger of us losing our professionalism and just having people who are technicians who are trained to deliver whatever it is that they’re given to deliver, because they know that they’re going to be tested.

[00:06:19] That’s great, thank you.  And did you want to add anything to that Chris?

Chris Pascal:            [00:06:23] Yeah, I’m going to kind of flip it though, because I think that we are at a point globally and nationally, I think that a reckoning is happening.  We’re living with the consequences of our actions, but I think a reckoning is being taken.  There is a reckoning on the environment being had, there’s a reckoning on social mobility, there is a reckoning on preparation for things.  So, I think that it’s also an opportunity for a recalibration and a rethink, and certainly I try to live my life in an optimistic way and I do trust if we can get it right for this generation of children coming through.  They are going to be living with the consequences of what this reckoning is going to do.

[00:07:10] I spend time with children, deliberately, because they inspire me with their optimism and their resilience and their capacity to think differently and do things differently.  You look at the young people around:  Greta Thunberg and all of that, you know, they are not going to do and tolerate what some of us in our generation have done.  So, I try always to be optimistic about the future, because we have to be.   But I also think what we’ve lived through and are living through is we are reckoning.

[00:07:42] I think it is an opportunity to recalibrate and rethink about what the quality of our lives are in terms of family life, and I think COVID gave us an opportunity with homeworking.  Many people have said ‘I don’t want to go back to what I was doing before, because I had a different and maybe a better life working in this kind of way’.   I think that many practitioners-   going to Tony’s thing about being a living contradiction, I know I don’t agree with that, and I know what my children in my class or my group need, and I am going to spend time on that.  And I may be a bit stronger about knowing where their loyalties and priorities should lie.

[00:08:24] Certainly the dialogues that we’re having in our research, I mean our training that we do, are with leaders and practitioners who are deeply rethinking through their curriculum, and really importantly their pedagogy, and trying to navigate a different, slightly more balanced path with all of that, because they know and understand that the children need that.  Their children need that, and their loyalty is to those children.

[00:08:54] I am hoping that we will get politicians that can make more informed choices and lead in a different kind of way.   And, you know, sorry but our work is in a political context that has shaped where we are now, which has not been great, but we’ve got huge developments in medicine, and knowing how we live well together.  English is generally a tolerant, inclusive, welcoming place and I really get the sense that we’re moving away from that ‘close the borders and close opinion’ to be more opening and welcoming.

[00:09:37] And I’m coming back to the theme of this …. That we have these friendships across these boundaries, and across these differences, and have the humanity and the – we talked about compassion and empathy, to say we can do better than this and we will do better than this.  And there is no better place to start than those who work with younger children, because you’re creating those citizens of the future who will do better than what’s been done, I’m hoping.

[00:10:10] But we are part of that change now.  We can create a now daily work and life with children.  If all of us recalibrated a little bit and enabled children and practitioners, and families, to spend time on being together.   And I think it’s the togetherness that will solve these issues, not the separateness.

[00:10:37] So I think that friendships and relationships and the collaboration of that, the partnerships, we are all of us strongly together, not part.  And we need to set that atmosphere, that ethos, and that climate in our Early Years settings that when we’re here we’re a collective, that we’re ‘we’ together, and we’re inclusive, and we’re respectful, and we celebrate those individuals, but we work together on joint projects, not individual journeys – but a collective journey together.

[00:11:08] And we care about the big questions, about the planet, and living in peace and harmony, and having a voice, and listening well to each other.   These are the things that our work is about, and friendships thrive, and social networks thrive in those kinds of climates.   That’s what I and CREC and our colleagues believe in passionately and we’re trying to put those priorities, through our work, back in to settings and I remain optimistic.  Ruthlessly optimistic about it!

[00:11:45] Yes, I really like that.  I think that we’re coming to a nice close point here in terms of that hopeful optimistic feel for the future, and for children and children’s friendships. 

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[00:12:04] So just finally, is there anything you would like the listeners to sort of take from this?

Tony Bertram:           [00:12:10] From me, five things.  I mean we’ve talked about flourishment, we’ve talked about friendships, we’ve talked about professionalisms, and we have talked about – well, I certainly mentioned seeing children as individuals and treating them as individuals, and I think the fifth thing would be entrepreneurship, which might be a surprising thing.

[00:12:31] I think that children should be encouraged to be entrepreneurial; and by that, I mean that they should be allowed to make choices and an entrepreneur is somebody who sees an opportunity to do something different and make changes.  To do that, young children will have to have agency, there would have to be voice, they would have to have curiosity and imagination.  I’m happy for metrics of these to be invented and to be used more fully.   I don’t see us doing that.  But to develop an entrepreneur who wants to do something differently for the future, because that’s what the future has got to be about.  It’s got to be about change and adaptability to all the things that we face including sustainability and all the other aspects of the UN Charter.  

[00:13:24] So yes, entrepreneurship I think is quite an interesting thing.  Allowing children imagination; that’s to say an autonomy and choice, and to see things slightly differently.  It requires us to listen to them.

[00:13:37] Yes, definitely listening.  And I really liked your points there Chris around being hopeful and optimistic.  Is there anything else you wanted to add to that?

Chris Pascal: [00:13:47] I think time and temporality, how we spend time together and the timing of things and allowing days to have fast time and slow time.  We need sometimes to be hurried a bit, because we need to get things done, but we also need to slow things down.  So, I think being conscious of how we spend and offer time and make time available.

[00:14:15] A little bit more compassion to each other and ourselves about what’s possible and what we can do.  The hope is this kind of deep belief in yourself and in those around you, that you can change things, that we don’t have to go on like we are.  That it is possible to imagine a different world and a different day and a different space.  And a different way to live.    And to start thinking what can I do to start that going.

[00:14:48] And this belief that things can get better, and I’m beginning to hate these slogans, ‘Build Back Better’, but we can do better than we’ve been doing, and we can do it differently to what we’ve been doing, and that starts right now in daily life.  But it’s the small things, not the grand-   It’s not the big projects, it’s the small things.  How you introduce in your daily life moments when joy can come in, or affection can come in, or excitement, or serendipity, or a deep immersion in something, or you can just take time to stand and watch your children, because children teach you.   If you really get close to a child and watch what they do, and follow their lead, they can teach you as well as you teach them, so it’s this learning collectively together and giving yourself permission to do that.  Not feeling that you’ve got to hold the power and control everything all the time.   Letting go a little bit of that is really important.

[00:15:53] Thank you very much.  I feel during this podcast with talking to both you Tony, and Chris, I have been doing a lot of nodding as we’ve gone along and I’ve been thinking ‘Stop doing that!’ but each time you’ve been saying things I’ve been nodding, so-    It’s been really great to talk to you, I really appreciate it, thank you very much.

[00:16:15]  [music playing]Thank you for listening to this podcast.  For more information on Caron’s research and other related podcasts, please visit https://research.shu.ac.uk/friends   This podcast was made possible by a fellowship opportunity funded by Sheffield Hallam University.  [music playing]

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The Importance of Children’s Friendships in Early Childhood Education (1 of 2)

[00:00:00] [music playing] Hello, and welcome to Children’s Friendships Matter.  A podcast about children’s friendships post-COVID 19.  In this first of two episodes Dr Caron Carter talks to Professor Chris Pascal OBE, and Professor Tony Bertram, Directors of the Centre for Research in Early Childhood, or ‘CREC’. based at the St Thomas Children’s Centre in Birmingham. 

In this episode Caron talks to Tony and Chris about the importance of children’s friendships in early childhood education, and links to children’s wellbeing.  This episode covers a range of topics including flourishment and joy, encouraging children to connect respectfully with others, COVID 19 and friendships, recovery, and re-entry into settings and schools post-COVID 19.

The second episode will look at the role of adults in children’s friendships, time and friendship, and hope and optimism.

[00:01:19] So welcome, Tony and Chris, so this podcast.  It’s really great to be able to talk to you this morning.  I wondered if I could ask you to introduce yourselves and tell us a little bit about your background.  If we could start with you first Chris?

Chris Pascal: [00:01:34] Hello everyone, and to you Caron.  Really happy to be part of this wonderful conversation this morning.  My name is Chris Pascal and I’m Director of the Centre for Research in Early Childhood in Birmingham, which I co-direct with Tony Betram.    I began my professional career as a social care worker with younger children in inner-city Birmingham, looking after children under the age of 5 who had been taken in to care but were in a children’s home.  I don’t think that we do this anymore.  It was a kind of assessment centre for children.

[00:02:08] Then I went on and got inspired by the value of education as a means for social mobility and life transformation.  So, I did a teacher training and then became an early years teacher in inner-city Birmingham and I worked doing that for fifteen years; doing my master’s and doctorate at the same time as teaching fulltime, and then went in to HE to train teachers and started at that time to research my own practice in the classroom – and that’s where my research career started.  Inspired also by my doctorate.

[00:02:44] And then I met Tony, who was also at Worcester, and we established the Centre for Research in Early Childhood, which we relocated into a children’s centre in inner-city Birmingham in the year 2000, as we turned a new century.  And here we are, doing research practice, consultancy, and training – living our daily lives in a children’s centre in inner-city Birmingham with children and families.   So, we walk in the front door with the children every day and it keeps us very grounded, I like to believe.

[00:03:17] That is so interesting, thank you.  I think that it’s really great for listeners to just- They are also interested in people’s backgrounds and how they’ve come to where they’re at.  So, could I ask you the same Tony?

Tony Bertram:           [00:03:30] Yeah, well I was born in Bolton, in Lancashire.  I grew up in Blackpool, in a little fishing town on the coast there.  We were market traders.  I’m not talking stocks and shares; I’m talking about making women’s hats.  And I spent the first infant years in a drawer at the market stall, a hat drawer.  That was my beginnings.

[00:03:54] I emigrated to Canda when I was maybe in my early twenties, got married out there.  Then decided I should do something serious, and I came back and trained as a teacher.  I worked in infant schools.  I have always worked with children under-five, for about thirteen years.  I became a head, and then moved into higher education.

[00:04:20] As Chris said, we started the Centre for Research in Early Childhood when we were at Worcester and since then we’ve become independent.  Our focus of much of our research is on the implications of research for practice and policy.  In other words, we don’t just want to do research for research’s sake, but we want to have an impact.

Chris Pascal:            [00:04:44] It is a very ethical and values driven organisation with a serious mission around social justice and equalities, and particularly for those less-advantaged children and families which Tony and I both come from, is to give them the opportunities that we feel we’ve had and just support children and their families holistically.  So our work is very much infused with a social mission and a political mission to make a difference to the kind of country that we live in, to make it more inclusive and allow every child to thrive and achieve their potential and I say that at the beginning of this podcast, because we’re talking about something that is really important in securing children’s life chances and their sense that they’ve lived life well, and lived a fulfilled life and our friendships and relationships are at the centre stage of all of that, as our own lives have illustrated to us.

[00:05:42] I think that it’s really, really important, as you say, that the research that we do has that impact.   I was just thinking I probably wouldn’t be doing this right now if it wasn’t for, you know, I’m from a similar working-class background and widening participation at the time when I was kind of going to university and so on allowed me to do what I’m doing.  So, I think that’s really heartening to hear that that is still on the agenda and people are still advocating for that, because it’s so important.

Tony Bertram: [00:06:14] I would never have gone to university unless I had received a grant.  I can say that straightforwardly.

Chris Pascal: [00:06:26] But I think our work in early childhood education is not just education, it’s what I call civic work.  It’s about citizenship, voice and democracy and listening to children and their families, whoever they are, and responding to that.  And that’s the kind of society that I want to live in, where it’s inclusive and people have the chance to live their life in a, we’re going to use the term ‘In a fulfilled way’.  Not just driving academic lives.

[00:06:59] For me education, when I trained back in the 70s, was much more holistic.  It was about giving children the capacity to live a culturally and socially and professionally rich life.  To be able to develop relationships, and coming back to the theme of this podcast, are really meaningful and help them live well.  We are social beings, and we all depend on having people around us who we care for and who care for us, which is what friendships are about, isn’t it.

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[00:07:31] One of the reasons I was so interested in talking to you is knowing that you do quite a lot of work around children’s wellbeing and obviously that’s so linked in with children’s friendships.  So, I just wondered if you could tell us about your research and links to young children’s friendships and perhaps wellbeing?  So, could we start with you Tony?

Tony Bertram: [00:07:55] Yes, I mean we are interested in researching friendships and wellbeing.  Friendships are very important to wellbeing.  Not just for children but for adults as well.  Communities within school settings and early childhood settings.   I think that there’s a danger at the moment that we’ve developed, and I think that it’s particularly impactful in early childhood settings, we’ve developed what I would call a performative culture. So, all of a sudden we’ve started to measure children and have metrics on everything and we’re forcing both the practitioners and the children to be subject to that and I’m not sure that we’ve got the balance right.

[00:08:43] I do think that we want all children to be fulfilled and to be the best that they can be, and to develop skills and so on, I’m not saying that.  I’m saying I think that we’ve got in balance the relationship between fulfilment if you like, the development of all the skills and things that children need, and flourishment.  And I think that flourishment is quite a nice idea because it suggests that children have to develop within the community and with themselves and be socially interactive and so on.

[00:09:10] So that focus on, I think at a political level, that we’ve got that out of balance at the moment.  That is one of the things that we’re very interested in exploring.

[00:09:22] That’s great, thank you.  And did you want to add anything to that Chris?

Chris Pascal: [00:09:27] I want our children to progress academically and to achieve that because that’s what’s helped me in my life, and I had a good education in Birmingham that gave me the knowledge and the skills and capacity to do that.  I think particularly in early years, although I think that it’s true throughout, is how do you live well while you’re doing that.   And I really worry at the moment about mental health issues amongst our children and young people, because they’ve lived through COVID and been very isolated – cut apart from their normal networks and friendships and a lot of our work really looked at that, and I think that has led us to a preoccupation, not just with the knowledge and skills that children need to progress educationally, but the process by which they experience that.  I think that for children, flourishing is about having a life in which things like joy, love, trust and relationships are part of that, part of where children are developing the skills to be able to do that.

[00:10:27] And actually to perform well in any area of your life you need to be able to connect with other people.      I also want to make the point at the beginning here that friendships are part of that.  That relationships are bigger than that.  We have to relate to people who are not our friends.  We have to relate to people that we sometimes find it difficult to be friendly with.   We live increasingly in a polarised society of us and them, and othering others, and not connecting in a respectful way with each other, but in our world, we’ve got to learn to live with difference.  And I mean that at a global level.  There is war going on in Europe now, and how we live with difference and diversity, and people who are different to us and how we relate to that in a respectful way with that without losing your own integrity and your own sense of groundedness and who you are.  And you’ve got your place in that world, and you’ve got your close network of – I will call that ‘friends’, but you operate in a connected way with other people in that world.

[00:11:37] We can’t live like hermits or in gated communities or in camps away from other people.  So that is when I talk about our civic work and relationships are at the heart of that.   A bit of the foundation stage curriculum which puts personal, social and emotional at the heart of it probably more than – and I’m a great fan of getting children mathematically and linguistically competent, but the ability to be socially, emotionally literature as well is probably more important in terms of determining that child’s life and their fulfilment in their lives.

[00:12:18] My daily work is full of relating to other people and if I hadn’t got the skills to do that I would be in big trouble.   I don’t think that you can live well in an isolated way, and so I work on relationships and within those relationships we all need somebody around us or a few people around us who would go to unreasonable lengths for us, which is what your friends and hopefully your family do.  But we all need people in our lives to do that, and that means that close relational friendship and developing that capacity to link up with somebody like that, to have a bond, and it starts really early on – that basic skill of connectivity and attachment, we might call it.  Attachment of another to us, because we learn it through that, but also our attachment to others around them and how we negotiate that through our lives.

[00:13:12] Because our relationships, our close attachments change as we grow too, don’t they.  I was struck by a young child I was with the other day who had got in to trouble at school because she had said that somebody wasn’t her friend and then I thought that’s a fairly okay thing to say because I have to work with people who are not my friends.  I thought she had been quite sophisticated saying ‘No, she’s okay, but she’s not my friend’, and she was making that distinction.    So I think that friendships and relationships and our networking with people is how-   And that is created by the processes by which we live and work together and as Tony said, we don’t spend enough time, or there’s a danger that we’re spending not enough time on that, and some of that is part of why I think some children are struggling in today’s world, because they haven’t had enough experience of it or that there is too much of a function to drive them on and drive them through and catch up, which is very individuated, rather than a collective endeavour.

[00:14:18] I have recently done a podcast with a teacher in a school and they were saying very, very similar things to you.  Again, the fact that we want children to reach their potential and to do well in maths, English and that kind of thing, but also the really important things are those relationships and making connections.

[00:14:36] I know you mentioned there about COVID-19, and I know you’ve written a social mobility impact research brief, and I just wondered if you could tell us a little bit about that?

Chris Pascal: [00:14:48] We were commissioned by the social mobility unit actually to look at what was happening over the period of the pandemic and also the Froebel Trust that we’ve been working with because Froebelian practice has a great emphasis on some of the things that we’ve talked about; fulfilment, friendships, and networking, and the important of being together with each other during this time.

[00:15:12] And our work tends to be in practice and with practice.  All of our research is done in the company of others.  We don’t come in as researchers and do research. We kind of work alongside children and particularly we try to listen well to children and encourage them to kind of share their knowledge and expertise, which is what we were doing on this project.   What were their experiences like of living with COVID?  There is age hierarchies that go on here and the group of people that haven’t been listened to by policy and practitioners are children and young people.  There is a lot of evidence now.  But the younger children particularly – because there is this perception that they’re not able to articulate and actually we find children profoundly able to articulate and communicate.

[00:16:03] Even without words.  Their body, if you tune in to what they’re telling you, they’re communicating with you.  They are incredible communicators of their mental state, their wellbeing, and what matters to them.

[00:16:16] So through the children’s play, when they were going through COVID, and sometimes there was lockdown and they were not allowed in and some kids were in and some were not in, but we really were trying to listen well to what children’s experiences were and we did some work in primary schools as well, at the Teach First project to see what their experience had been during lockdown, and the fundamental thing that bonded them all was that during lockdown, the biggest thing that they missed as their friendships in the nursery or in school.

[00:16:51] When they were going backwards and forward; lockdown and not lockdown, or in bubbles and not in groups, the children found that profoundly difficult.  That they couldn’t relate to their home friendships because their home friendship and settings, how they lived with that.  Some children we found very, very resilient in that.  In fact, the children were teaching us as adults how to manage that, and they found ways to express it through their play and through their actions, to make different kinds of connections with people.

[00:17:28] I remember one little girl, she knew she couldn’t hug her friends so she kind of developed this self-hug and then she did a kiss by opening and shutting the palm of her hands to express her feelings so they were telling us you can find ways to connect, even if you can’t physically but they were absolutely, when they were back in the nursery and the school, sometimes the coming back was difficult to navigate because it was a long period of time and they’re growing fast and things are changing and their friends had had experiences that they hadn’t.

[00:18:01] The thing that they most missed and most needed as a kind of therapy was to reconnect with their friends and being back into the routine of their nursery community.  But what we were doing in our research was documenting and curating their play sequences to see what was happening in their play and how they were making their inner-life, and this is very Froebelian, their inner-life outer, through the expression of that in their play sequences. 

[00:18:36] There was lots and lots of COVID play.  There was a game called the death game, where they acted out somebody dying, but they didn’t want to do that with an adult, they did that away.  That was quite interesting.  But mask games, touching games, and not washing/hand cleaning games.  All kinds of play that went on over a period.     Whereas others didn’t want to do that at all, they wanted to play away from that.  So super-hero play.  And the other thing that we found is that they were drawn to the outdoors.  Again, children teach you.  In the nursery they had the choice of indoors and outdoors, maybe because they hadn’t been able to when they were at home.  They wanted to be outdoors because a) I think they kind of knew.  It was almost in that romantic way; the outdoors is healthier for you.  The engagement with the outdoors was much more profound as an individual but also as a group they wanted to be outdoors as well.  So, we learnt a lot through observing, listening, and documenting their play and then talking with the children and then telling their stories.  Often using their words or through multimedia expressions of what they did.  

[00:19:49] And then really dialoguing with them and the practitioners about what they were telling us and then we adjusted practice because of that.  So that’s the impact and so the children’s voices really shifted.   So, the practice in the pre-schools changed, nurseries changes, so they changed to be more outdoors focused.  They changed to give children more time to play and less time doing kind of what might be prescribed as catch-up activities around literacy and numeracy.  They felt that the children needed more time to be with each other and play in a free way and play out these narratives and express these narratives that were really important to them.

[00:20:34] And they also wanted knowledge, by the way.  They wanted to know about the virus and what it looked like.  And the drawings of this virus, which is a crown, isn’t it, so they wanted that intellectual academic knowledge about- They didn’t want to be protected from that.  They really wanted to know the science I would say, and they understood what would happen if the virus got on their hands and got transmitted to them.  

[00:21:04] And then they were telling their parents about wearing their masks and sanitation.  So, we sometimes, no, we quite often underestimate what children are interested in and capable of but what they most needed, and need now, as we are moving ahead, is time to play.  Time to express their daily realities and live out and express their emotional state in relation to that.  Or not.  Sometimes they want to move on from that and do something different and that should be fine as well.

Tony Bertram: [00:21:35] Two quick anecdotes from me, is that when we were doing this thing on COVID we were interviewing children, and adults, to see what had been the impact but also what had been the process of recovery and re-entry in to schools, and I remember interviewing this 12 year old girl and asking her what was the most difficult thing about having to come back to school and how she could pick up where she had left off, and so on.  We had a strategy of an intervention process from an additional teacher who had been engaging with this group and I was thinking about the curriculum and when I said to her what is the most difficult thing, she said ‘I was frightened that when I came back my friends wouldn’t be friends with me’, and I thought wow, that’s it.   You know, if you’re talking about developing children you’ve got to be aware that all this happens in the social context.   So that would be one anecdote.

[00:22:32] The other one was we’ve done another piece of research with The Scouting Association, and historically when I was that age you had Scots and Cubs or Guides and Brownies, but now we’ve got underneath the cub level we’ve got Beavers, and we’ve got the new group which is called Squirrels.  So, this is 4- and 5-year-olds, so again we’re doing an evaluation, national evaluation – it’s an incredible programme I think.   It is scouting, but it’s about growing kids independently, it’s not gender specific, it’s boys and girls.  So, I am asking this group of children at the end, I said what was the most dangerous thing that you’ve done in Scouting and one of them said ‘Oh yeah, we had to light a fire! We were allowed to light a fire!’ and the other one said ‘Yeah, we were chopping up wood!’ and I said, ‘Have you got any fingers left?’ and then this one kid said, ‘The hardest thing for me is actually coming in and seeing if my friends are still here and if they still like me’.  And I thought, you know, it’s as deep as that.  I don’t think that PSE sums it up.  Sticking PSE on the end, it’s an actual integration, an integrated part of children’s life and in fact all human life.

[00:23:49] Do I belong here?  Is there somebody looking at me as an individual?  The teachers that I remember from my school, still, are the ones that saw me as an individual and I think that there is a problem with us just looking at children as what’s the average and why aren’t they up to the average?  Because actually none of us are average.  We’re all individual and independent and I think that kind of flaw, not the ‘law’ or averages, but the ‘flaw’ of averages is something that we ought to take on board and see children more as individual.  And listen to this social and emotional process that has to be right, and you have to be close to it and understand it.  And that is how we wrap all friendships.  And, as I say, I think that applies not just to the children but to the adults as well.

[00:24:37] Can I just pick up on a few points that you’ve said there.   Those kinds of stories, those things that you’ve just told us Tony about what friendship means to children, I think that’s why I’ve been researching this for the last decade, because I know how much it means to children.  I know that it’s really important to them.  It’s really great that you could share those examples.   Just picking up on a couple of things that you said, Chris – those positives almost, if we can say.  I know that we don’t like to look at it in that way, but actually in terms of adversity like COVID, you were saying that some of the children showed resilience through their play.  And again, play being so integral to friendship.  And you mentioned Froebel and I’ve done a podcast with them and interestingly they mentioned your work. 

[00:25:28] I think when I did some research with children during COVID there were some children that talked about actually this did give me the opportunity to make new friends, or to talk to people that I don’t usually talk to.  Particularly when there were groups of children where there were keyworker children and vulnerable children that were in school, so it might be that your friends weren’t there but actually for some children that was an opportunity to have conversations with other children or be in groups with other children that they wouldn’t ordinarily be with and for some that was positive.

Tony Bertram: [00:26:00] We did a piece of work in a seaside town where we were looking at Early Years settings and seeing what had been the impact on those Early Years settings in terms of COVID and so on, but this one particular setting, it was close to a hospital – and it was an area of great social deprivation.   You know, some of our seaside towns now are where what used to be called ‘troubled families’ were placed.  And the children in this setting were those who had been children of key workers during COVID.  And, as I say, they were next to a hospital but they weren’t the children of the nurses and doctors, they were essentially the children of the porters, the ordinary people who were grafting around things.

[00:26:51] And for them of course, because they were seen as children of keyworkers the ratios had suddenly changed within the setting.  Their care and education was being paid for, and what the practitioners reported to us was that what they had predicted in terms of these children’s achievements was far exceeded during the COVID years.    They were the ones who were the complete outliers who went against it and they had really benefitted from lower ratios, more time, they hadn’t stuck to the rigidity of the practice and as Chris said, they had enjoyed a lot of time outside, outdoors, exploring things because actually the staff wanted to be outside more than they did inside. 

[00:27:38] So I just thought that was an interesting outlier, and maybe saying something about what’s needed in terms of having the space and the forum to develop children in the way that we’re suggesting.  And yeah, maybe in a Froebelian way.

[00:27:51] To have that time and space to actually focus on those interactions and those relationships, yeah.

Chris Pascal: [00:27:57] I think it’s important to say that COVID impacted on all of us differentially.  Some of us, and some children had – if we can say this, a good COVID and others a really bad one, and all those now are back together, and so the challenges that those of us who work in those provision is to support all of those children and the danger is that we focus on the catch up thing, which is to intensify and narrow down on a few certain things when maybe what we should be doing is opening up and relaxing and we are very inspired recently by Alison Clark’s work on slow pedagogy and giving time-  Because staff are also struggling with their own mental wellbeing and recovery too, but not thinking that we’ve got to catch up in 12 months what was a three year process, and for some children the majority so far of their young lives.  We’ve got to give them the luxury and freedom of time to navigate through that.

[00:29:07] Now that takes skill and it isn’t just about saying that we just need to let them go, free for all, and all of that.  Skilful practitioners who know how to scaffold and structure individually for those differences that are there, but to pay attention to the wellbeing and to give children time and staff time to have relaxed time together, slow time together, to process things and find their feet.

[00:29:39] And the skill of interacting with a wider group of children, you know, these children coming in from home and family and that has been very restrictive.  If you think of how many different relationships these very young children are having to make and respond to when they’ve been in a very contained environment, you know, you add another two children in and exponentially the number of interactions and the number of relationships between all those children – and you add another ten children and its massive what we’re expecting of these children in order to function. 

[00:30:14] It isn’t just about sitting them down on the mat and showing them flashcards or getting vocabulary into them, it’s how they interact and relate to each other and we’ve got to pay attention to this I think looking ahead.  If we don’t then there is this whole generation.  And all of us, we are all still in recovery from it.  I certainly still am, because my working life was transformed, and children’s lives were shaped differently, this cohort coming through, their lives were shaped differently.

[00:30:50] We’ve got to kind of pay attention to that and infecting their day – I talked earlier about the conditions for flourishing and fulfilment is joy.  They’ve got to experience joy in their daily life.  Being able to be joyful and to feel the joy and to develop and feel warmth and affection from people who aren’t their family.  To know when and how to trust other people.  There is a lot of caution, because there had to be, so having to engage in a trusting way and develop trusting relationships is a big work for us to do in our sector.  So, joy, love, trust and giving them time to process those experiences through play or through arts.   And there is another thing that’s linked: the imagination and creativity.   

[00:31:46] One of the things that other pieces of work were very involved with is the place of creativity, the arts, and the cultural life that goes on in the setting that many of these children have missed out on, giving nurseries and schools not just permission but the support to kind of enrich their lives.  That aspect of their life has been impoverished as well and will have consequences for how they grow up with a love of the arts, the ability to enjoy music or make music, the ability to create wart of be in art or perform art.  All of these things enrich life and make us more rounded people, and we generally do these things in the company of others, don’t we.

[00:32:36] You know, you just think that we couldn’t sing together and how joyful singing is at every age.   We are having to re-learn all those things or learn for the first time those things again, and all of that needs space and time to have its place, and there is a big, huge work for us to do, but underneath that children are incredibly resilient and have found ways through it but not all children did.   So we have got to be aware of the differential of experience.  Some children flew and thrived and had brilliant times and had wonderful home experience as well as carried on at the nursery and that was kind of better for some children who were there, but other children did not and they had a very difficult time.

[00:33:30] But we always say the best therapy for any child is another child.  A Greek friend of ours once said that to me and I always remember it.  The best therapy for any child or any human is another human that they can get close to.  That’s what friendship is about and it’s fundamental to our work and our life more broadly I think, and we are really campaigning in all of our political work and in our practitioner and practice work, is to encourage and support attention to be paid, equal attention, and a rebalancing, I think.   Tony talked about our attention to these underpinning life skills, which is what they are.  Which is how we live well in the 21^st century and how we deal with virtual friends or the virtual world.   There is an AI kind of issue. 

[00:34:27] When we think of the sustainability goals, the human, social, and environmental – that technology is also changing the nature of friendships and relationships and helping children and ourselves navigate the way through that.  it’s a massive challenge that brings huge opportunities for connectivity, but it brings huge challenges about what’s real and authentic and that will help you live a fulfilled and well life when all those options are around.

[00:35:00] I think that we should in this podcast touch the AI and the virtual world, or the metaverse and do you like me, am I your friend, what image am I presenting on that, on my Facebook?   Very, very young children have phones and live in this virtual world.  It’s astonishing to me, and how we give them alternatives to that, or ground them in a real world.  Something that I care quite passionately about, that I want the meta world, or whatever that is, to be a benefit to our humanity and not to kind of distance ourselves from each other or allow ourselves to live in even more of a bubble, because I think that one of the things that’s happening is that we’re all living in little self-contained bubbles and social media and the internet are part of that, aren’t they, and that polarises or puts us in to that camp or that camp. 

[00:35:59] And I’ve come back to that learning to live and relate to people who are different to us in many ways.  I don’t just mean in terms of their abilities, and I mean in terms of their sexuality.  All the diversities.  Populations are on the move and our countries are becoming much more diverse places, so we are not living in a tightknit homogenous community and shouldn’t be.  And how we encourage that openness to difference and that welcome to difference and an ability to connect across those differences in an inclusive way is going to be vitally important for our survival as a species, I think.

[00:36:40] When you were talking, lots of things were coming into my mind but I was thinking still about that sort of tolerance, our understanding, that compassion and that time and space, and I was just thinking about a scenario that somebody was telling me about just after we had the second lockdown.  I think one of my friends said that they saw a lady with a pushchair with a toddler in the pushchair and she just went up to just talk to them in the street and said hello and said hello to the child in to the pushchair, and the child kind of turned away and she just said ‘Look, I’m really sorry, but he’s a COVID baby and he’s really finding it hard now with those interactions’.  And when you said about trusting people, it made me think about that whole, you know, we’ve got to allow that time and space and understanding and compassion about how children have kind of learnt during those lockdowns to be cautious and to be careful and now it’s going to take a while for that.  So that reminded me of that.

[music playing] Thank you for listening to this podcast. The second episode of this podcast with Tony and Chris can be accessed by visiting https://research.shu.ac.uk/friends. Here you will also find more information on Caron’s research and other related podcasts.  This podcast was made possible by a fellowship opportunity funded by Sheffield Hallam University.  [music playing]

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Children’s Friendships through the Lens of ‘Slow Pedagogy’

[00:00:00] [music playing]  Hello, and welcome to Children’s Friendships Matter.  A podcast about children’s friendships post-COVID 19.    In this episode Dr Caron Carter talks to Professor Alison Clark, the author of Slow Knowledge and The Unhurried Child about children’s friendships through the lens of slow pedagogy.  Reflecting on what we might learn for both practice and future research directions.

Here they delve into some of the temporal issues that affect children, practitioners, and teachers today.  What impact does the organisation of time have on children’s friendships, how might time support children’s friendships, and how is time to play integral to children’s friendships.

[00:01:05] Welcome Alison, to this podcast.  Could we start with you introducing yourself and telling us a little bit about your background and your role as an academic.

Alison Clark: [00:01:17] Thank you Caron for this opportunity to have this conversation.  I am really looking forward to this.  So, I’m an early childhood academic and I’m Professor of Early Childhood Education at the University of South-Eastern Norway.   And I’m an honorary senior research fellow at the Thomas Coram Research Unit, which is part of the Institute of Education, UCL, in London, where I worked for many years.

[00:01:42] I was a primary school teacher in Bristol working with the youngest children before beginning my research career and a common thread running through many of my research projects has been listening to children’s perspectives and finding out what it’s like to be children in a particular place at a particular time, and to learn from that and just carry on understanding more and more about how children experience the world.

[00:02:13] That’s great, thank you very much.  I’m aware that most people will know your work, but for anyone who wants to get familiar with your research, could you tell us a little bit about your research on listening to young children?

Alison Clark: [00:02:26] So it’s been around young children’s perspectives, children under 8 in the main, and particularly those whose perspectives are often assumed rather than explored.   My work in this area began in the 1990s, late 1990s when I joined the Thomas Coram Research Unit and that study was to include the voices, as it was described, of the youngest children in a review of services for children and families.

[00:02:57] I was working with Professor Peter Moss and I had that great privilege, which lead to the Mosaic Approach, a multi-method way of listening to children’s perspectives and other older participants that aims to draw on people’s strengths or whatever age really, and therefore to use a range of different modes of communication including visual modes of communication through photography, but also walking and talking and then use the things that you make through those conversations as a springboard for more conversations and hopefully for also learning and changing practice.  So, I remember one educator saying to me in an early project ‘I think this is about don’t make assumptions’ and I think that is a really important reminder for me to keep listening.   We might think that we know what it’s like to be other people, to be other children from other backgrounds, but we mustn’t make assumptions.

[00:04:05] Several studies followed from that first study on listening to young children, and particularly around the physics environment, so I had a project, ‘Spaces to Play’ that was around changes to a play space with young children and adults, and then a three-year study looking at changes to the physical environment including the building of a new nursery class within a primary school.

[00:04:28] So working with architects and educators and children.  So other researchers have taken on the work and have adapted the Mosaic approach in their different ways, including in PhD research.

[00:04:40] Thinking back to the first study, the 3- and 4-year-olds that I was working with talked to me about friendship and bout relationships, and favourite activities were often associated with who they were with at the time, and children talked about the importance of siblings too.  When they could have contact with siblings during the day at nursery, as well as who they didn’t like to play with.

[00:05:09] That is so interesting.  The whole idea of not making assumptions.  We only have memories of being children. We don’t know what it’s like to be a child in 2023, so I think that’s so important, that idea of those assumptions.

[00:05:25] I always find it really interesting when my son comes home and I say, ‘What have you been doing at school?’ and you kind of get the ‘Hmm, not much’, or you don’t really get that much, but then you say, ‘Who have you been playing with?’ and that often opens up a little bit more of a conversation. 

[00:05:45] I think that idea of friendships is so very important to young children.  Some of the things that we kind of take for granted, or the assumptions that we make, you know, we can really get it wrong if we don’t listen.

[00:05:57] I was thinking as well about recently you’ve written a book, Slow Knowledge and the Unhurried Child – Time for Slow Pedagogies in Early Childhood Education.   A really fascinating read.  I’ve found that I’ve read it and then I’m going back to it or going back to particular chapters and looking at things that have really spoken to me.  I just wondered if you could tell listeners about the impetus or motivation for writing this book?

Alison Clark:  [00:06:27] Yeah, well I think that it partly grew out of a growing concern with the always fast-forward pace in education with little time for educators or children to pause and reflect, and I think that I’ve noticed that across the different country contexts in which I work, not just here in Scotland where I’m based, but also in other countries where I’ve been working. 

[00:06:53] I think hearing this concern from educators and researchers too, worried about the emphasis on the easy to measure and the scripted answers required from children.  So I applied to the Froebel Trust to research what are some of the alternatives to this hurry.  What do we know from early childhood pedagogies, going back over several centuries, looking at okay, what might this have to do with our relationship with time.   So it’s not about the new, but it’s about a different relationship with time.  It is more of a question I think of reclaiming some of these ways of working that we’ve known given children more opportunities for play but have perhaps become a little bit lost.

[00:07:47] And do you think that the times that we have now, with post-COVID, cost of living crisis, climate change, perhaps this is a particularly good time to start thinking about re-addressing perhaps and looking at this again.  When you say it isn’t anything new.

Alison Clark:  [00:08:11] Yes, well I think that particularly because of the pandemic and how that has made many people I think more aware of how they think about time, with time having almost, in some senses, come to a halt, frozen time, but yet other people having to work kind of super-fast in order to change practice.  So, I think it has been an opportunity to re-think.  I’m not sure that opportunity has really been taken up very widely by those who lead us.  But I think that it is a time, it is an opportunity, and I think that there is still a chance to grasp that opportunity to re-think in education.

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[00:08:58] I’ve noticed with your work on slow pedagogies and listening to young children has linked to young children’s friendship, which is why I was particularly interested in talking to you.  For instance, if I kind of just draw a little bit on some of my research – so children’s friendships are kind of made and nurtured through play, but as children start compulsory schooling in England, in Y1, there are less opportunities for free flow play, and even playtime has restrictions.  So, I was thinking they go in the morning to school, there is a bell, they might have assembly, there’s another bell, then it’s a numeracy maths related activity, there’s another bell and then it’s English, another bell and there’s breaktime, then there’s a bell for playtime to finish and so on. When I spoke to children who were in the 5-7 age bracket, they explained to me that even the restrictions, they realise that playtime is a really good time to have – to decide on what they wanted to play, what they wanted to do, there was no restrictions, but actually then they went on to explain some of the challenges that they had at playtime. 

[00:10:13] So for instance, some children explained that they had to do certain things, so they would have 15 minutes but in that time they had to go to the toilet, then go and get their fruit, and then they went out to play.  It seemed that this was problematic for them because if they went to the toilet and got their fruit and then went out to play when they got out there games and play were already established and they would say things like ‘It’s a two-er game/It’s a five-er game/It’s a three-er game and all the parts are taken’ and this was then really tricky for them to gain access to the play once it was started.  So it seemed that they had this dilemma of ‘Do I go to the toilet when I’m supposed to and then I risk not being able to get in to the play?  Or do I not go to the toilet but then knowing I will go back into the classroom and probably need the toilet, and if I ask to go to the toilet I will get in trouble’.   So, I just thought gosh, that’s so interesting.

[00:11:17] Again it’s linked to this time pressure of those things have to be done at playtime, because then when you come back in, it’s time to start ‘learning’.    I just thought this kind of then has a real impact on children being able to make friends or maintain friendships that they have.

[00:11:42] When I was reading your work, those things that I had kind of encountered with children came to the fore for me and I thought ‘Oh yes, that’s really, really interesting’.

Alison Clark: [00:11:53] Yes, I think what you’ve described there is the impact of how time is organised in schools on children and how it then affects these very important but personal decisions about even how they’re relating to their bodies.  Being able to go to the toilet or not and deciding whether okay if I go to the toilet then I’m going to miss out on a game outside.  But the bigger picture of that is how adults are deciding to organise the time and what are they giving priorities to? 

[00:12:23] So if for example a school was working a system where children could go to the toilet for example when they needed to during the day, then you take that pressure out of this very precious free play time at playtime.    So how time is organised can have a profound impact I think on children’s everyday lives in schools.  So, one of the things that my study was doing was talking to participants who were teacher educators and educators across 11 countries talking and working in early childhood education and they were reflecting with me around what pedagogies and practices they knew about that had a slower relationship with time, that were less hurried, and then to think with them about what that would enable. 

[00:13:13] So a slower practice, for example, could be around everyday routines.  So it could be around lunchtimes and how lunchtimes were organised, and some of the things that we noticed were that a slow practice could be one where children have the opportunity to go off-track, so where it was facilitated learning but there was the opportunity for children to develop their ideas and to go in to depth, so completely different from a very scripted ‘You need to learn this and then we’ll measure you’.  I think in these types of slow practices where children are given more opportunities for what’s been called ‘unfragmented time’.  So unfragmented time, it’s from a phrase I first heard by an American educator, Harrier Cuffaro, who has worked with John Dewey’s ideas.  She talked about unfragmented time or stretched time.  I love those two phrases.

[00:14:11] So if children are experiencing unfragmented time it gives more opportunities for them to talk, to explore their ideas, or not to be so driven always by the bell and very tight timetables.   Currently I’m working with Early Years settings in Orkney; two of the settings have decided to think about slow practice at lunchtime to sort of give them a way in really to thinking can we be less hurried across the day.  Let’s start by looking at lunchtimes and how we organise it and then to look in detail about the way that they organise lunchtime.  What does that enable children to do, and what does that kind of prevent them from doing?

[00:14:53] For me, part of that, in a less hurried lunchtime do they children have opportunities to chat to each other, is it a social event, or is it just a kind of mechanical being fed event?  Is it seen as just the gap between morning school or nursery and afternoon or is it actually really embraced as part of the day?  And this sort of built on an early practitioner study that I was involved in in Falkirk in Scotland.  This was led by Donna Green, who is the lead Froebel pedagogue Falkirk.   Two of the Falkirk Early Years settings chose to look again at lunchtimes and how children’s agency could be increased, how there could be less rushing, more chance to help themselves and each other, and I think again a more social event. 

[00:15:53] I recently visited a pre-school in Iceland, and they’ve been thinking there over several years about mealtimes and democracy and interestingly one of the changes that they made to the lunchtimes was that the children – there would be a sort of buffet system where children would come along and choose from a choice of options, but children serving themselves.  And then children could choose where they sit and also who with, and that was really interesting just watching the children coming in and you could see them coming in with their friend or whatever and thinking where they wanted to sit, which might be in a different place on a different table.

[00:16:32] So it wouldn’t work everywhere, but I think that it was an interesting example of ‘Okay, let’s think about what does that organisation of time, what does it enable and what does that maybe prevent’ and then to think together as a group of staff about that.

[00:16:54] That is so interesting Alison, the things that you’re talking about, particularly around lunchtime because again in my research children did talk a lot about lunchtimes and about wanting to sit with certain people or certain friends, or sometimes the table was full so they couldn’t sit with their friend and again those things were really, really important to them but actually sometimes were barriers for them again in terms of nurturing the friendships that they’d established.  I was thinking also back to when you were saying that, to when I first started teaching and I was working in an infant school and we used to have what they called family service and each table would have reception children, Y1 children, Y2 children, they were mixed up.  And then the Y2s would act like the parent almost and they would serve everybody’s food.  So, they might have a lasagne or something and they would serve the lasagne up to each of the children and so on.  It was very much like a family meal.  And also, I feel that was really nice because children of different age groups, it gave them opportunities to interact with different age groups and make friends with children in different age groups but I think the sorts of work that you’re describing, again I think we do have to take some time.  Sometimes we do have to sort of take some time to reimagine or requestion the things that we’re doing and how that’s working for children.

[00:18:24] And again, not make those assumptions.  We might think as adults it’s working but is it actually working for children.

Alison Clark: [00:18:30] And I think that ‘is it working for children’, I guess that takes us back to the importance of listening as well, because I think that part of that ‘is it working’ can be talking to members of staff who are working over lunchtime in different capacities and also talking to the children as well, as well as observation.  So, I think that there are different ways of thinking is this working.  And I’m sure that it’s often the case of trial and error as well and that it’s not necessarily going to be something you can change very easily because it might be timings involved in the number of children, or in terms of catering schedules, but I think that it’s such an important area to think about because of its impact on children’s wellbeing and the quality of their day.

[00:19:17] And again that brings me back to I did a little bit of research with a particular setting that talked about, well their lunchtime staff or lunchtime welfare supervisors and it did really bring home to me the value of that role and the difference that can be made to those children because it’s a full hour often, so really, really important and I think really important to children, particularly socially.

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[00:19:48] Going back to your book, Slow Knowledge and the Unhurried Child; I read the chapter 3 a couple of times actually on playtime.  That starts by sort of addressing the impact of COVID 19 and what that had on children’s opportunities for play and friendship and of course that is something that I’ve been thinking a lot about because it’s such an unprecedented situation that children were socially isolated.  They weren’t with their friends, they couldn’t be with their friends, and there were a couple of things that spoke to me in that chapter.  A piece from Helen Dodd, who is professor of child psychology, and Michael Absoud, a consultant paediatrician, and so Helen was talking about time for children to reconnect, and us making sure that children have that opportunity to reconnect.

[00:20:47] And Michael was addressing social play and he said that he would prescribe it if he could; it was that important.  He felt that this was something that he would prescribe at this point.  So I wanted to ask you about your thoughts on the unhurried child and friendships post-COVID now that we’ve got this new context that we find ourselves in.

Alison Clark: [00:21:09] Yes, I was really struck by those comments by Helen Dodd and Michael Absoud, and I think that emphasising the importance for children coming out of this global event, to have the opportunities to play and not to have the emphasis on catch up. 

[00:21:35] I must prefer an emphasis on recovery – which I think is something that we still need to be thinking about.  So, it seems even more important than ever to create more opportunities for play in school, especially in the view of all these lost opportunities for social interaction that many children have experienced.  I think in the research that has been conducted during COVID, and I think in your own work looking at children’s friendship, you can see huge creativity in children looking for ways in which to keep up these friendships online, or for example in your examples of doorstop visiting where that has been possible.  So looking for any opportunity to keep the friendship there, but also the challenge of needing to reestablish friendships if they’ve been locked in the home and then coming back in to the school and nursery settings, so many different skills for children re-learn here, and so I think that this recovery phase is vitally important, and one of the things that we need to do, I think, is to prioritise play, not just for the youngest children but for older children too.

[00:22:45] As I was saying about the catch up narrative, you know, catch up appears to be around this kind of concern to pour as much knowledge back in to children, but we know from looking at established pedagogies that children learn far more by being able to explore firsthand for themselves, facilitated by educators, but if we’re looking at long term learning and learning that includes enjoyment then I think that we need these more opportunities for play.  And I think that takes me back to that idea of stretched time.

[00:23:26] So when does the approach to the timetable limit the opportunities for children to engage in depth, which may involve working collaboratively with others, or perhaps companionably alongside others.  So, this kind of coming alongside others, I think sometimes of myself as quite a shy person but I do love the company of doing something I enjoy, knowing that somebody who I like is there.  I wonder with children too, it’s not just these opportunities to do things together in a group but perhaps to have more opportunities side by side. 

[00:24:07] I really like that idea of the companion idea, of doing something alongside.  I was also thinking about my experience in school sometimes that some children don’t want to jump straight into something.  Some children do and they want to participate immediately, and some children don’t, and they want to observe and they want to see how it is for other people and then they will decide whether they want to participate or not.  And it almost reminds me a bit of that really, about again that time that we might give for children and say do you want to participate or do you want to just observe what’s going on here. 

[00:24:47] And again, when there’s been those gaps socially particularly, you might not know what’s coming or what’s going to happen, or you might just want to see what it looks like.  And again I was thinking about a child that I know who doesn’t particularly like football but would like to play football because they know that there’s a social element to it, but then at first was thinking ‘I have to have this skill in order to participate’ but once they had observed and they saw what it was about they thought ‘Oh actually they’re just kicking the ball back and forwards to each other, it’s not like a full game or anything, it’s just knocking it back and forward’.  So I think that it’s that opportunity again to allow children to participate or to observe at their own pace when they are ready to do so.

Alison Clark: [00:25:41] And I think that idea of giving children opportunities to engage at their own pace is very important, and that pace will be different.  So, some children, yeah, you know, almost 99% of the time are on kind of fast-forward, rushing around.  So, when I talk about slow pedagogies it’s not around slowing everything down to a kind of almost standstill, but it’s about this being sensitive to the different pace and rhythm of children and that will include some moments of really rapid attention and engagement, but not necessarily all the time.

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[00:26:23] So I was going to ask you now, as a final question, what take home messages would you like the listeners to take away from this podcast.  We’ve talked about quite a lot of things so I just wondered if there was anything in particular you would like people to take away with them?

Alison Clark:  [00:26:40] Well I think that it’s maybe more a question of what questions to think about.  So, I am interested in what does slow enable.  What do slow practices enable.  So slow is not meant as a destination in itself, but it’s more a question of thinking about what becomes possible if we have a less hurried approach and if we think more explicitly about our relationship with time and then which children might benefit most from this because, for example, if I take children who are coming in from – for who English is a second or third language coming in to a new setting for them and a new country, there is so much learning socially, emotionally, and intellectually that needs to happen.  Thinking of slow practices, I think, could enable those children to make a smoother transition into this very new environment. 

[00:27:44] So that might be, for example, in more opportunities to be outdoors, it might be through more opportunities to work with certain materials, say for example in my book I look at working with clay as a material that holds time in a particular way, that kind of enables children work with it on many different levels and across time can use it as a one-off material but can also watch what happens when it dries and watch what happens when it’s fired or when it’s painted, for example.

[00:28:22] So there are these different examples I think of slow practices that may be of particular benefit to children needing to work at a different pace and to enable children with different abilities to flourish, including children with special needs.  

[00:28:40] And I think that there’s potential here for more opportunity to support children’s friendships as our conversation has maybe showed.  So that is my first question: What do slow practices enable.  And then the second question would be how does the organisation of time in early childhood education and care and in schools’ impact on children’s lives, because I think that a lot of our relationship with time in education is implicit rather than explicit.  We take it for granted that we work with timetables in a particular way and that we work with the clock, and many of those routines are necessary, but I think that there is opportunity to rethink them and to think okay, what does working with time in this way – what does it enable but what does it also prevent? 

[00:29:30] And then a third question I think is what opportunities do children have for unfragmented or stretched time?  To follow through ideas and to work in depth, or to revisit earlier work?  And on that last question of revisiting, I think that is also about how we relate to time.  You know, education does tend to be always fast forward, and I think that there are very few opportunities for children to go back and look at what they have learnt so that they can kind of celebrate it, they can think about it again differently, because our ideas will have changed, but I think because we split children usually in to different year groups, we move them through the system, and it’s all about what they’ve done with the immediate learning, rather than accumulative knowledge.   And I think as lifelong learners it’s around how we embrace the learning that we’ve done over time, and I think that our education systems need to be better at supporting children to do that.

[00:30:33] And there is a lovely example in your book of that, isn’t there, where you go back to a child and talk to them about, it’s a few years later, you talk to them about their previous learning, and I think that is a really nice example because again, like you say, we don’t really have time to do that.  But actually, children really do like to revisit that and to really talk about things. It’s almost like we think that they won’t remember, but they do.  They have amazing memories for these things, and it’s a really nice example in the book of being able to go back to children and talk about that learning in other year groups or what’s gone before.

Alison Clark: [00:31:13] Well something that really struck me as a researcher.  So, I was lucky enough to be working on a three year study in the living spaces study and so I talked with children when they were in nursery class, and in reception class, and then went back 18 months later and talked to them again about the changes to the physical environment.   And it was great, being able to take in the work that they had made with me, and their photographs and maps and things and sit down to chat to them.

[00:31:42] And it struck me, as a person who had been a primary school teacher, thinking there are so few opportunities in the system to do this, because we are always working towards the next targets, but the children were really interested in what they had done before and had things to say about it.  I think that there is more room for us to give children these opportunities to revisit and I think maybe to not make assumptions about what children remember and what they don’t remember, because my research as taught me that actually children remember far more than they might imagine.

[00:32:21] And just one final thing; I like that point of you saying about it might be children with additional needs, or refugee children, or – and I was thinking about particular children after COVID, because sometimes there’s an assumption now that COVID has happened and children have caught up and they’ve moved on, but I was just thinking about Christine Pascale and Tony Bertram’s research that talks about the long-lasting effects of COVID for some children and again thinking about those individual children or individual groups of children that we could do with really thinking about how we can support them and listen to them.

Alison Clark: [00:33:09] Yes, absolutely, and I think sometimes in re-thinking some of these organisational and pedagogical structures it can benefit a whole range of children, but maybe some children, maybe the less visible children in particular.

[00:33:22] That’s great, thank you very much.  it’s been a privilege and a pleasure to talk to you Alison, thank you very much.

Alison Clark: [00:33:30] Thank you very much Caron, it’s been great to have this conversation.

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[00:00:00] [music playing] Hello, and welcome to this short introduction to the Children’s Friendships Matter podcast series, where Dr Caron Carter gives a brief overview of her project prefacing its origins and themes.

[00:00:27] This introductory episode provides some background and context for this podcast series.  Over the last decade I’ve been researching children’s friendships in the 4-11 years primary age phase.  My passion and interest for this work started when I was a primary school teacher.  I was a teacher for 11 years before becoming an academic. I have always been fascinated by the benefits that friendship can bring to children. 

[00:01:02] Back in 2005, whilst I was a deputy head teacher, I decided to research further into this area. What made friendship easy for some children but then almost impossible for others?  What could the school and teachers do to support?   I started researching children’s experiences of being playground friends.  This was an action research project which led to changes being made in my school to support children’s friendships.

[00:01:39] I have published several journal articles, including a publication with Cathy Nutbrown and something I have coined ‘The Pedagogy of Friendship’.  This calls for greater attention to be paid to children’s friendships.

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[00:02:00] With the emergency of COVID 19, lockdowns and restrictions, children were without their friendships and everyday social interactions.  I was concerned about children’s wellbeing and their holistic development and learning.  I was left wondering how children might be affected without their usual friendship interactions in school.  Therefore, I designed a project to explore how children maintain their friendships during this period with 7–11-year-olds.  Now children have returned to school research is emerging with suggestions for ways to support children during this period, post-COVID 19. 

[00:02:50] In this podcast series I talk to experts in the field about their research and its implications for both practice and research.  Similarly, I will be talking to teachers who are fully immersed in practice about their everyday experiences and the issues that they are facing post-COVID to support children’s friendships.  If you are an academic this might influence your thinking or research directions, and if you are a teacher or practitioner working with children, these episodes might provide you with something to reflect on or take away to your classroom on your own work with children.

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[00:03:38] Thank you for listening to this podcast.  For more information on Caron’s research and other related podcasts. Please visit https://research.shu.ac.uk/friends. This podcast was made possible by a fellowship opportunity funded by Sheffield Hallam University. 

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